Healing Birth Trauma to Reclaim your Feminine Power
At least you have a healthy baby…. No.
Not at least.
Once you hold your baby it will all just go away… No.
It doesn’t just go away.
To be flooded with visitors who only want to hold the baby… Who seem to not even see you in the room…
To feel your power has completely not just slipped away in one of the most monumental moments of your life but it was stripped.
It was claimed by another… who received all the praise and gratitude... when it was you, tearing your soul in half to bring this new life earthside…
To feel the memories rise to the surface when the anniversary of your gift rolls closer…
To feel that anger bubble and spit as you push down your resentment to feel blessed it's almost your darlings birthday…
Separating the gift of your baby from the trauma that was the birthing process… they are not the same bundle and they do not cancel each other out.
So often Mothers feel they have no right to grieve their birth as they were blessed with a healthy baby…
Other traumatic births have been way worse with loss of life… how could I possibly voice my grief…
I’m being selfish…
But,
Trauma is Trauma
There is no scale.
Your feelings are valid…
Your dissociation feels like a lack of love… but really it’s your brain trying to save you from slipping into a deeper blacker hole… because if you open to feeling that rush of love… what happens if that rush of fear and shame and loss comes flooding you and you can’t get a grip again…
It’s ok to crack, find a safe space and leave the door ajar.
Just a little out at a time… and give it love and give it time and give it space to be heard and held…
Let it know it wasn’t a dream. Give it room to be real…
We all need to feel seen in order to heal.
We all need to feel held exactly as we are, scars and pain and light and dreams…
Honour it all.
I see you.
We work through this in The Motherhood Evolution Mentorship Program, helping you release your pain and stories to model courageous self worth for the children of now...
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